He's Just not that into you-_-_-Critique!

This book was very successful in explaining the difficulties of men in different situations. It gave me a new insight to different relationship problems and how to deal with them if i ever came a crossed a situation like one in the book. The author made the topic/subject understandable from the very beginning. After reading the first page, I knew this book was going to explain relationship problems to me.
Something that I don’t think worked very well was the fact at this book only gave a woman's point of view. It would have been a little more interesting if it showed both perspectives of a relationship. It takes two to tango. It takes two to make things work, so if i heard his side of the story, it would have made things more clear. It would have been interesting to hear what men have to say about women.
The sociology in this book was realistic. It gave great insight to the norms of relationships, and breaking the norms in some of the stories shared. One letter i thought was particularly funny was: Dear Greg, i have been living with my boyfriend for a year. I recently found out that about a month ago he slept with someone he worked with, twice. (The girl told me at a party!) I confronted my boyfriend and he confessed. I packed my things and moved to a friend's. He's now calling me constantly, beginning me to give him a second chance. He says he doesn’t know why he did it, but he promises he'll never do it again. he really feels bad about it. What should i do? From Fiona. Greg reply sarcastically, dear a month ago, Let's see. He slept with someone else while he was living with you, and you only found out because the girl told you about it. Sounds like a winner. When's the wedding? In my book, lying, cheating, hiding is the exact opposite of the behavior of a man who's really into you. These stories and letters make the book a very interesting read and an overall great book.

He's Just not that into you---Commentary

I really enjoyed reading this book. It gave me new insight to how men see women, and how women see men. Reactions-- At first I was a little confused about the set up of the book. It had letters written from women about their problems with their men. One woman wrote, Dear Greg, My boyfriend is a lawyer and happens to smoke pot every night. When he does he acts and talks like he does when he is sober. I guess its weird that he's always high and I'm not, but it doest seem like an issue with us. My friends think its weird that I'm dating a pothead. but its not like he's really acting like a pothead, so what does it matter? I cant imagine how this has anything to do with how into me he is or not. Right?? From Blaire. Greg is the woman consultant. He writes back to Blaire replying; "Dear High times, WRONG! lets take a quick health ed class on what pot does to your brain. Smoking pot makes your brain work slower, and makes you less in tune with your surroundings and more introverted. It dulls your senses and clouds and impairs your sense of reality. So, he's always stoned when he's with you. That means he likes you when there is less of you. You're going out with someone that doesn't enjoy you at your full levels. That's tantamount to him liking you better when your in the other room. This doesn't mean he's not into you. It means he likes his pot better than you. By the way, if he ever got arrested for pot, he most likely would lose his license, because criminals are not allowed o be officers of he court. So at least your in good company, because he likes pot better than his job too!"
All of these situations made me think of everything that could possibly go wrong in a relationship of mine. It made me realize that sometimes, guys are just not that into me. Sociology helps me understand this book because it looks at the way society views relationships and the norms of certain relationships. It looks at what is right and wrong when in a relationship. You cant break the norms of a relationship because then you are a "bad boyfriend". Also, the internalization of these norms in a relationship become a part of the personalities of the two people. The limitations of apply sociology to this book would be because we only hear one side of the story. We only hear what the woman has to say about her man. Also, there is no primary group. There is no face to face interaction between the writer of the letter and the author of the book.
I think the authors point of writing this book was to help women understand men. It doesn't give them excuses of why their relationships are not working out. It simply says, look, he is just not that into you. Men are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman, "you are not the one." But their actions absolutely show how they feel. This book shows women when the time comes to say, its over, things just sometimes don't work out.

He's Just not that into you

Angela Wyman

AnAlYsIs!

This book is about the norms of men and the way they act in relationships. It's the no excuses truth to understanding guys. It gives examples of different relationships and the things that went wrong each time. It gives all the excuses men have ever used to avoid saying to a woman "I am just not into you." Women don't like hearing it, but it would be better then staying in a bad relationship.

He says "Oh sure, they say they are busy. They say that they didn't have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just that crazy. All lies." She says "this is what we do: we go out with someone, we get excited about them, and then they do something that mildly disappoints us. Then they keep doing a lot more things that disappoint us. Then we go into hyper-excuse mode for weeks or possibly months, because the last thing we want to think is that this great man that we are so excited about is in the process of turning into a creep."

The author of this book, Greg Behrendt, can use the line "he's just not that into you" for any story a woman has told him about a bad relationship. Women try to use excuses for the relationship they are in and Greg gives them advice. One woman used the "Maybe he doesn't want to ruin the friendship" excuse. Greg simply replied, there are other men out there for you. If he doesn't want to ruin your friendship, then go find someone else who does. He is just not that into you."

Sociology can help interpret this book because it is showing the norms of men, the norms of dating, and the norms in relationships. It helps women understand men, and if a man read it, i bet he would understand women better. It also goes along with adolescence. This can be a confusing dating time and this book helps ease the confusion. All in all, this book is great if you want to get into the mind of someone of the opposite sex.