He's Just not that into you---Commentary

I really enjoyed reading this book. It gave me new insight to how men see women, and how women see men. Reactions-- At first I was a little confused about the set up of the book. It had letters written from women about their problems with their men. One woman wrote, Dear Greg, My boyfriend is a lawyer and happens to smoke pot every night. When he does he acts and talks like he does when he is sober. I guess its weird that he's always high and I'm not, but it doest seem like an issue with us. My friends think its weird that I'm dating a pothead. but its not like he's really acting like a pothead, so what does it matter? I cant imagine how this has anything to do with how into me he is or not. Right?? From Blaire. Greg is the woman consultant. He writes back to Blaire replying; "Dear High times, WRONG! lets take a quick health ed class on what pot does to your brain. Smoking pot makes your brain work slower, and makes you less in tune with your surroundings and more introverted. It dulls your senses and clouds and impairs your sense of reality. So, he's always stoned when he's with you. That means he likes you when there is less of you. You're going out with someone that doesn't enjoy you at your full levels. That's tantamount to him liking you better when your in the other room. This doesn't mean he's not into you. It means he likes his pot better than you. By the way, if he ever got arrested for pot, he most likely would lose his license, because criminals are not allowed o be officers of he court. So at least your in good company, because he likes pot better than his job too!"
All of these situations made me think of everything that could possibly go wrong in a relationship of mine. It made me realize that sometimes, guys are just not that into me. Sociology helps me understand this book because it looks at the way society views relationships and the norms of certain relationships. It looks at what is right and wrong when in a relationship. You cant break the norms of a relationship because then you are a "bad boyfriend". Also, the internalization of these norms in a relationship become a part of the personalities of the two people. The limitations of apply sociology to this book would be because we only hear one side of the story. We only hear what the woman has to say about her man. Also, there is no primary group. There is no face to face interaction between the writer of the letter and the author of the book.
I think the authors point of writing this book was to help women understand men. It doesn't give them excuses of why their relationships are not working out. It simply says, look, he is just not that into you. Men are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman, "you are not the one." But their actions absolutely show how they feel. This book shows women when the time comes to say, its over, things just sometimes don't work out.